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Hey guys…

So according to one co-worker, he says I am the best engineer he ever met and is constantly praising me with the higher ups. This is all good and dandy but the issue I have noticed is that I constantly have him 2nd-guessing my recommendations or suggestions. Some times it feels like I am just talking into an empty room.

If I tell him something about VMWARE or any random Windows issue he is not content with me telling him how to fix it. He needs to go to google and verify this himself.

It feels very disrespectful and a waste of my damn time to be having to go through this.

It has gone to the point that I just acknowledge him when I clock in and just pay no attention to him.

Anyone deal with something like this?

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Yeah, I’m starting to hate people too. I dream of a magical IT land where there’s rows and rows of servers and a badge locked door with no phone.

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Some folks are just skeptics. Don’t let it get under your skin.

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IT could be nothing more than he’s a need to see it with my own eyes type, I work with one. I stopped letting it get to me, he’s entitled to his opinion just as I am.

As long as it’s not stopping work from getting done, let him have his pile of crap and you take care of yours.

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Sorry, I would do the same thing if you told me something and I would verify the process or procedure. That is just me, but I would tell you that you were correct and also tell you if you were not correct. Covering my ass.

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I don’t see the problem. You have a user that’s interested enough to verify what you say and learn more about it for himself. I’d kill for users like that. Most of mine can’t be bothered to change their own toner let alone learn something for themselves.

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I’m often this type of person. It doesn’t mean that I think the person is dumb or incorrect, it’s just a comfort thing. I usually don’t mind if people do it to me either, if I’m incorrect or inefficient I want to know.

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I don’t “deal” with it. Far as I’m concerned I really don’t care what they think.

Let him live forever alone.

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Yeah you guys are right. I just wont respond. Let him deal with it. Can’t help those that dont want it.

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Sit back and let him do the work…

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It does grate the nerves. I fired a customer who constantly did that.

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No, you can’t help people who won’t accept your answers.

Generally, these people are called “Users”, and aren’t nearly as mythical as we would like them to be.

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Start sending all your advice to him in the form of LMGTFY links.

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2nd-guessing my recommendations or suggestions.

Perhaps your recommendations and suggestions aren’t welcome? Why would continue to do this? Don’t you have enough work of your own? Is there a middle ground between telling him what to do and not talking to him at all?

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I… am not sure I’d care. If someone asks me for my help, waits for my answer, and then says “never mind I’ll google it” I wouldn’t like it, and would stop answering with anything but “I’m busy, maybe later”. But I wouldn’t really care about their idiosyncrasies. My brother-in-law is kind of like that, he gets an idea and he has to share, and usually is based on very limited info… i.e. largely wrong. I just go uh-huh, and mmm from time to time until the conversations peters out without debating the real facts. :slight_smile:

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Better that he learns, verifies what you’re saying, and understand it himself.

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I sometimes do that myself. Sometimes, not all the time. I’ve always been told to get a second opinion.